Seeing Yourself: How to Hear You When the World Won’t Shut Up
Happy Sunday, internet friends. Today’s blog isn’t about the latest diet trend, productivity hack, or how to optimize your sleep cycle by eating sea moss at 9:02 PM. No, today we’re talking about something deeper—seeing yourself for who you really are, without the noise of the outside world constantly screaming in your face like an unpaid intern in a startup pitch meeting.
Let’s be honest: the world is LOUD.
Social media tells you what to wear, what aesthetic your breakfast should have, how your “healing journey” should look, and what personality traits are acceptable this week. And don't get me started on the sea of “experts” (some of whom got their degrees from the University of Google Search) writing articles about how to “optimize your existence” like you're some broken machine in need of a firmware update.
So let’s slow down. Let’s take a moment to talk about you—the real you. Not the version curated for the 'Gram or built out of Reddit threads and Pinterest boards. Just you, sitting with your coffee, reading this, and wondering what it actually means to know yourself.
The Difference Between Noise and Voice
When was the last time you asked yourself:
What do I actually like? What do I actually want?
No, not what gets the most likes. Not what your friends, family, or TikTok therapists think is “good for you.” But what you enjoy.
If that question made your brain do a little dance of confusion, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Most people live their whole lives running on autopilot, following trends, and wondering why they feel like a mismatched sock in a drawer full of perfect pairs.
Here’s the kicker: you can’t know yourself if you’re always listening to someone else.
How to Actually Get to Know Yourself (Without Becoming a Hermit)
1. Try Stuff Alone
Yes, alone. No tagging along with friends. No “let me just check Instagram to see if this is cool.”
Go to a movie solo. Try painting, hiking, or sitting in a café with a book you picked without an influencer’s recommendation.
When no one’s watching, your choices start to reflect who you actually are.
2. Journal Like It’s a Therapy Session With No Copay
Write your thoughts. Not for a blog, not for a post, but for you.
What made you laugh this week? What drained your energy?
Write it all down and over time, you’ll start seeing patterns that shout: “Hey! This is what you actually like!”
Bonus tip: read your old journal entries. They are wildly entertaining.
3. Create a “No Influence” Zone
Set boundaries for the outside world. One hour a day: no scrolling, no podcasts, no background noise. Just silence. Meditate, sit still, walk around your neighborhood like a main character in an indie film. You’d be surprised what you hear when the noise dies down.
Real Talk: I’m Not an Expert Either (But I’m Not an Echo)
I know I’m just another voice on the internet.
I don’t have a PhD in self-discovery, and I didn’t find enlightenment on a mountaintop with a wise goat.
But what I do have is this: personal experience. The long, awkward, sometimes hilarious process of figuring out who I am. And importantly—who I am not.
I’ve done the work. I’ve asked the uncomfortable questions. I’ve tried the “morning routine that will change your life” and discovered all it changed was the time I was tired.
So I’m not here to tell you what to do. I’m here to say:
Hey. You’re not crazy. This process is weird. But it’s worth it.
The Real You Isn’t Hiding, You Just Can’t Hear Them Over the Noise
Seeing yourself isn’t a mystical process reserved for monks and life coaches. It’s about choosing curiosity over conformity.
It’s asking yourself what you love—without needing permission from the algorithm.
So, here’s your homework (don’t worry, it’s fun):
Spend one hour this week doing something purely because you’re curious about it. No performance. No audience. Just you.
You might discover a part of yourself that’s been waiting quietly for your attention.
And if not, well, at least you’ll get a funny story out of it—and maybe a good blog topic.
Tell me how you did throughout the week! Were you able to shut out the outside world and focus on you? I’ll check in later this week and tell you what I did on my “learning me journey” and I’d like to hear from you!
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